"Unhappiness is the perceived gap between your expectations and reality."
You have a desire, and when it doesn't go the way you thought it should, you're sad. Because every expectation you imposed, in the form of a thought, created conditions that restricted what was trying to come through. There was a diving plan, and you got in the way. Now you're sad...
More on thoughts:
The mind is ideally meant for processing incoming information from your higher consciousness and only meant to run 10% of the show. Yet in our recent human development, we’ve had to adjust to the massive amount of incoming information, and the mind is out of control.
Everything you see was once a thought. Thoughts create invisible, yet measurable, energy (scientifically proven, not spiritual jargon). The entire world around us is also made up of energy. Does it not then make sense that your thoughts are creating your current reality?
I met a magical Spanish woman named Eva Lobo who has developed a system to teach children to stay present. She explained that all thoughts are based on 5 memory hard disks: intention, fantasy, culture, what is heard by others, and your own reminded experiences. They are all fake and fragmented knowledge that isn’t useful to filter the present moment.
She went on to explain that intuition is a gift from Source that can only come through a quiet mind. The quickest way to lose this gift is to layer thoughts and expectations of how, when, why or through whom it should arrive. Each of these thoughts creates dis-resonance and energetically pulls the goal further away from you.
Advice: If you have a wish/goal/desire take 3 minutes a day to use your imagination to see, experience, and feel gratitude for it… then let it go and move on with your day! Do nothing to force it. You will soon be given an opportunity to make a choice that aligns with the vision. Make that choice! It’s that simple.